STOP SERVING,
START THRIVING

“IT’S TIME TO AGE WITH CONFIDENCE, GRACE AND STRENGTH; TO EMBRACE WHO YOU ARE AND THE BODY YOU HAVE, SO YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE ON YOUR TERMS”

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AGE WITH CONFIDENCE

To age with confidence is all about mindset.  Fact.  I know how it can feel when your body lets you down. And as a former International Athlete, I know exactly how it can feel when your body can’t do what it used to do. Or doesn’t look like it used to do.

But does that mean you can’t be proud of your body? No. Chance.

We can choose to let our hormones, health issues, aches and pains, the lines and wrinkles that come with the ageing process define us.

Or we can choose to honour our bodies – they have served us well.  We can choose to take back control of our bodies, our minds and our emotions to show up as the beautiful, strong women we truly are. And let me tell you, when we feel like that, when we discover that mindset, everything changes.

That’s when we go from feeling like moths, to feeling like butterflies. And that’s when we can make our lives whatever we want them to be.

Your Time is now

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MY STORY

I WASN’T ALWAYS A THERAPIST.

FOR OVER 20 YEARS I WAS A SIX-FIGURE EARNING CORPORATE HARD HITTER FOR A WELL-KNOWN NATIONAL COMPANY. A HIGH HEELED WOMAN IN A GREY SUITED MAN’S WORLD. I LOVED IT. UNTIL MY WORLD IMPLODED IN MY MID-THIRTIES...

Age with Confidence : easier said than done. i get it.

At school I was always the shy, awkward girl. Frizzy uncontrollable hair, lanky body, functional but unfashionable clothes, you know the type. I was also the one who excelled at school or at sport. At anything I decided to focus on really. I won sports competitions, was always team captain, and I was ranked number 1 in Wales for my age group in the 400m and I even held a UK record. It was the same academically. I sailed through my exams and nailed my first degree.

But behind the world saw, I had lots of personal relationship trauma going on. It was all just… expected. My duty. Work hard, do my best and any achievements were just the inevitable outcome. I didn’t get any real recognition, and I was bullied by ‘the IT girls.’ They never ever beat me though. I fought back by studying and practising obsessively and showing up every day.

After leaving Uni I had a disastrous marriage and by my mid-twenties I was divorced. All of a sudden I realised what I had missed in my teens and early twenties. I had no cares in the world and space to discover who I was beyond the brainy geek who worked hard and ran fast. I had a blast. And a lot of attention.

Why? Because in short, I focused on me.

THE CREAM ALWAYS RISES TO THE TOP...OR DOES IT?

My career started to take off. I was getting noticed and leading teams. My social diary was full, I felt fabulous. But I was still the shy introvert who was sometimes overlooked at work because I didn't shout as loud as some.

Despite the setbacks, I didn’t give up. I built a reputation in the office as someone who ‘got hard shit done.’ And I did it well. But again, away from that environment I was putting everyone else first and along the way I lost the sense of who I was.

I channeled my energy into work, and by the time I was 34 I was a Top 100 Exec leader in a huge national company, leading 600+ people and being responsible for hundreds of millions of pounds. It was one of the biggest jobs of its kind in the UK. Selective about the company I kept and enjoying travelling; all the finer things life had to offer to a strong single woman in her early 30s. I was strong, I stood up for myself and what I believed in but I was always kind, acting with integrity. Valuing myself again. And it was paying off. Oh, it’s also when I met my husband too.

THAT’S WHEN

EVERYTHING CHANGED

WHEN YOU LOSE ONE BABY, YOUR PERSPECTIVE CHANGES. WHEN YOU LOSE SIX, YOUR LIFE CHANGES. WHEN IT HAPPENS INSIDE 2 YEARS, YOUR WORLD CHANGES.

I knew something had to give. Enough was enough. So I gave up my job, went travelling and invested in serious self-care. I managed my stress, my aches and pains and my shocking periods through acupuncture and coaching. I also spent time in nature. It worked. We now have an amazing daughter.
However, I lost myself somewhere along the way again, the toll on your body, your mind, your emotions can’t be underestimated. I also lost my financial independence, which meant I stopped showing up as the person I am when I’m living my best life. When I returned to the working world, I found myself a square peg in a round hole, totally uninspired by the job.

IN ONE MOMENT EVERYTHING CHANGED

One day, I pulled up in the car park outside work and as an acupuncture segment played on the radio. That night, I Googled courses, and a week later I enrolled for a Masters degree in Chinese Medicine (my third degree!). No messing around. 3 years of studying with a small child was no picnic. But I was more determined than ever. And it was worth it. I’m stronger, wiser, more humble and more determined than ever to show up in the world as the woman I am.

I NO LONGER BELIEVE WORKING HARD IS ENOUGH TO GET YOU NOTICED AND REWARDED. IT ISN’T. YOU NEED TO SHOW UP AND BE VISIBLE IF YOU WANT YOUR POWER BACK.

AGE WITH CONFIDENCE : THIS IS ME

So, now, after spending a long time wanting to be someone I wasn’t, I’m in my Forties and in love with who I am and the woman I have become, and I’m the the world’s biggest introvert.

I’m honoured to be featured in two books about inspiring women and I’m one very few Post-Graduate Degree holders of Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) in the UK, awarded by one of the most prestigious alternative medicine colleges in the world. A Member of the British Acupuncture Council and Qualified with a CBT based coaching post-grad qualification, which I trained and worked for during the first year of my Chinese medicine degree.

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I AM HERE TO HELP YOU AGE WITH CONFIDENCE

As well as my TCM expertise, I have hundreds of hours of Western medical training to my name and further qualifications in specialist physical and aesthetic therapies. There are very few people in the UK who can say they have the same combination of professional exec experience with a string of professionally accredited therapy qualifications.

My journey has been long, it’s been challenging, but I’ve come out on the other side. Stronger, older, wiser, and more confident in myself and my body. And now I want to help you do the same, using unique combinations of my skills and expertise, with my personal experiences.

IT’S MY MISSION

TO HELP YOU DO JUST THAT. TO STOP PUTTING THE WORLD FIRST, AND START RETAKING CONTROL OF YOUR BODY, YOUR MIND AND YOUR EMOTIONS TO BE THE BEST VERSION OF YOU.